I do have a confession to make though....... there has been a big controversy over spanking in my house. My husband believed, that if she got a spanking when she went potty in her pull-up, panties, etc..that she would potty-train much faster. Well, for over a year now, I have argued that point with him. I didn't want to turn a positive training experience into something negative. I felt that she didn't need to be punished at any time for accidents, in fear that it would only discourage her from potty-training all together. Well, after putting panties on her and getting very serious about it, I decided I would warn her first. She had her first accident and I made her help clean it up and warned her that if it happened again, she would get a spanking. Well of-coarse, it happened again and reluctantly, I gave her a spanking (well more like a swat, that hurt nothing but her feelings and mine both). She was only given a spanking(swat) one more time for the next accident and since then, has had no more accidents.
She calmly says this to us now..."I don't poo-poo,pee-pee my pannies or I WILL getta spankin" after she uses the potty. Now this is a little girl that understands very clearly what's going on. That's all it took...a little persistence and just a couple of swats on the bottom...and now she is, officially, a "Big Girl".
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Congratulations. That's a nice milestone, isn't it?
ReplyDeleteI have to agree with you on the spanking thing. I don't spank during potty training. But, when they 'get it' and it's not an accident when they wet themselves, then I do spank. It's a fine line!
It is a fine line. I think in the beginning, she was ready to potty-train, but too young to talk and I felt any accidents she had, were more a failure on our part than on hers (not asking her if she needed to go potty often enough). I think it's gone on long enough now that she is old enough to understand what she's doing and she was hiding to go poo-poo. I still don't believe you should begin potty-training with spankings, but if you realize your child knows good and well that they should be using the potty and can articulate it, then I think using punishment isn't so bad then. Although if you don't have to resort to that, it's much better.
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